At the core you know you can
be a reasonable person, if it was not for your temper that lets you
down. You find that fuse blows at the smallest comment or the
slightest thing that goes wrong. Your children, partner, friends
suffer and it all comes back onto you.
traps (personality-based problems):
This is where you get caught
yet again in that old pattern of feelings and behaviour that maybe
comes from fear, anger or impulsiveness, which seems so right at the
time, but time and time again, lands you back in it. It is wrecking
your relationships and leaving you fearful, lonely and isolated.
Difficult times at work! It
may be down to politics, change, bullying, demands, emerging old
issues or that boss! Whatever the reason, you are bereft with
anxiety and full of self-doubt, and you dread each working day.
You may feel pressure and anger, and wonder whether you can control
yourself or just blow, with awful consequences.
Even on your days off you can’t get
away because your mind is full of ruminations. Your family and
friends find you snappy irritable and moody.
Only the very best will do.
Anything else is a sloppy failure. However, the harder you try, the
more you seem to fall short and all you can see are your failings.
You just have to keep trying harder!
Traumatic Stress Disorder:
Life was just fine until
that accident or event happened. Since then your whole world has
been turned upside down for no fault of your own. Each time you talk
about the accident or event, think about it, or come across
reminders of it, you are right there as if it was happening all over
again, feeling terror with no control or escape. Your trauma may be
a direct experience of, or witness to accidents, war, mutilation,
rape, assault, childhood sexual abuse, torture from past partners,
domestic violence... the list is endless.
Maybe you have suffered a
disability from an industrial or road traffic accident or a
significant personal loss, either of function, loved ones or
lifestyle. However hard you look at your future, you cannot do what
you used to do; your future looks bleak and there is not much point
going on. Maybe alcohol or “recreational” drugs blot out the pain
but only for a wile and then those helpless thoughts are back.
You know it is totally
irrational but you had better go back and check it/clean it one more
time until it feels right. If not, then it may not be right and
something will go wrong and it will be your fault! (Wonderfully
portrayed by Jack Nicholson in “as good as it gets”).